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HOW OLD IS OLD?

She asked the following question on social media, do you think that at the age of fifty-two I’m too old for an eyebrow piercing?

Most of her followers who interacted said yes with an explanation. A few said flat out NO.

The problem I am having with this question is, is this any of our business? The minute we get to have a say in her decision-making process, we sway her opinion and shake her confidence. I am hoping that she asked it as a fun way of interacting with her followers on social media. And not a part of her decision-making strategy.

Now, who made up all those stupid moral and ethical rules, and propaganda about age and limitations? I would really like to know who is behind most of these biases I see going on to keep us in check on how to live our lives? Which amounts to psychological bullying.

Firstly,

What is too old? One-year-old, thirty-years-old, or one-hundred years old is still old. Who has time to let age dictate our lives for us?

Age is just a number and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I have seen eighty years old-old literally and eighty years old-young. And whether it is self-abuse, self-neglect, or taking optimum care for themselves which causes the prying eyes of the public to see the disparity in their aging process we are responsible for ourselves and what we do to achieve our happiness, maintain our beauty, and peace of mind.

I stood in JFK airport and watched in awe as my aunt at sixty-three using the senior citizen courtesy car and other privileges. You might think something is warped with my thinking, but you can’t call her old, senior, or anything that is associated with the elderly without offending her. Yet she was using something associated with old. When I ask her why she is doing it, she just smiles and says “this senior citizen thing doesn’t apply to me, I am just taking the liberty to use it because it’s there.” This same sixty-three-year-old woman jets off to Miami to have a love tryst with her lover who is fifty-five at least once a month, while her husband is totally ignorant. This same woman who spend hours in the beauty parlor preening herself and got a tattoo and tongue-piercing at age fifty-nine and make us look as if we are not trying in a bathing suit. And you know why she does this? She isn’t concerned with age, numbers, the public’s opinion, rules, or moral issues. But about living life to its fullest.

For those who said NO, we really can’t do anything about their biases. They are a part of a cycle, vicious or not, I frankly believe it is not because they don’t want to see her happy. But because they have spent their entire life under the world’s microscope that keeps them in check with their perceived societal norms, to do anything differently is an anomaly that must not be done or condoned.

I could understand those who were a bit concerned about her leaving holes in her body after breaking her skin integrity, but the skin apart from being the largest organ on the body has an amazing way of self-repairing itself. And sometimes the minutest scar remains as a trophy for past happiness.

So, whether it is a tattoo, nose piercing, body piercing, private parts piercing, navel piercing, or anything that gives you pleasure, should not be left up to be decided by those fanatical moralists who will cite a myriad of reasons not to get it done. And totally ignore your happiness.

And for those who humorously tell her to consider doing other things to enhance her appearance, I definitely agree with them. We are not cookie-cutter human beings, but unique in our own special way. Because it’s totally cool to be radical about our choices. I say go for it and filter out the negative comments.

Lastly, the final decision is left up to her. I hope she decides on being happy.